bring it on

A respectable guest offers (dessert/canape/wine)- but what to do when your kind gesture is accepted?

Take into account that whatever you bring to your host or hostess’s table should be hassle-free. Keep in mind you want to be part of the solution- not the problem.

During our recent move I came up with a hand gesture for my husband. It went something like this… with your left index finger and thumb form the letter “C”.

With your right hand form two interchangeable shapes. First make a fist then raise your index finger, next form an inverted “C” with your right thumb and index finger.

Bring the two together, making a point to trade off the right-handed gestures. Voila- you have a “P” for problem and an “S” for solution.

Oft times a visual speaks volumes. During the packing phase when we got into a potentially tense situation I’d tap my husband on the shoulder, execute the hand formations, my hubby’s face would brighten and he’d display his very own “S”.

Follow his lead- make sure you are an entertaining “S”. Which means:

• No dish/utensil requests

• No elaborate cooking in their kitchen (a short stint in a 350 degree oven is acceptable)

• No mess making

• No late arrivals if you’re bringing an appetizer (if you always arrive late don’t bring an appetizer)

In terms of portable hors d'oeuvres- bite sized appetizers are always welcome. Smoked salmon is impressive and easy.

Ingredients here are key- quality smoked salmon and yummy ethnic pumpernickel bread- if you can’t find one, substitute a fresh from the bakery country white. Inferior pumpernickel can be stinky (literally), you don’t want to overpower the subtle taste of the salmon.

Whipped cream cheese is a go-to ingredient. Add some finely chopped red onion and fresh dill.

Spread a thin layer evenly over the bread.

Cover completely with a single layer of smoked salmon. Trim the bread if necessary and cut into triangles. Garnish with a small sprig of dill.

A frequently overlooked element is the platter or tray. Whatever you bring should be ready to go. No hostess wants a guest rummaging through her pantry looking for serving dishes and utensils.

If it’s for a large party consider an attractive disposable platter (not an oxymoron). You can pick one up at a party store.

If you bring one of your own more permanent favorites help clear the drinks when cocktails are over quickly and quietly wash and dry your serveware, set it aside so you can tote it home when you depart.

Remember you’re part of the solution.